No I'm not in a relationship, but being "together" with this guy has made me think about what I want in a relationship. Most girls would say, "Oh I want roses on Valentine's Day" "He would hold all the doors open for me" "He'd carry me over puddles so my feet don't get wet" "We'd write notes to each other and sign 'I Love You'" "We'd text each other good morning and good night" and the list goes on, I'm sure you know.
Honestly, I hate roses. I think they are so cliche. Roses are traditional and classy. I'm not exactly traditional or classy, so please keep roses away from me. Holding open the door is just something a guy should do, but there is no need for him to get out of the car, walk to the other side and open it for you. Ladies you CAN show some independence. So the carrying over the puddles was a bit over the top, but I'm sure some of you are like "Oh he'd be my prince charming," sorry honey that will never happen. Notes are cool and all, but not something needed. Good morning and good night really? What if one of you has to get up really early for work and the other wants to sleep in, but you don't know so the one who gets up early texts "Good Morning" and wakes the other one up and then you're mad at each other and a fight starts? That's not a good thing.
Yes I'm exaggerating things a little, but some people would be like that. Girls have CRAZY ideas of what there perfect guy would be. Blue Eyes. Green Eyes. Dark Hair. Short-Spikey Hair. Tall. Muscular. Athletic. Smart. Just some physical aspects. Hilarious. Keeps me smiling. Takes me on romantic dates. Walks on the beach. Watching the stars.
I'm not saying all these are bad. Yeah, those things would be lovely, but I don't think we should DEMAND those things. I think we get to the idea where if these things don't happen right off the bat that they never will or that the guy is just not the right one. Every relationship is different. Everyone is going to want to do different things at different times. Some couples go fast. Some couples go slow. That doesn't make the relationship any better or worse.
One of the cutest couples I know: this boy and this girl. I met them at a party before a while ago. They aren't the most attractive people, though I do think the girl is pretty. They drink. They smoke. They party. They do it together. I think it is the cutest thing. I feel they really love each other. Yes they are in high school and maybe it won't last, but I think for now they are perfect for each other. They're so adorable.
Let's see. What DO I want? I'd have to say it really doesn't matter what he looks like. I can't pin point what he MUST look like. I'm kind of picky when it comes to how he looks. Must look good. I tend not to like white guys but they're not excluded either. Eyes, no color preference. I just need to love his eyes. Eyes are like the most important part of the face. I'm harsh in judging peoples noses. Lips, can't be too small or too big. A guys hair: I hate when it's really long. Am I dating a guy or a girl? Come on dude get a haircut. I like a dude with a nice body, just nice is fine. Nothing too over the top like G.I. Joe or something.
I want someone who will make conversation when I get quiet. I want someone who will let me love them. I want someone who really loves their family. I like guys who have good values but will have fun. I'd be nice if we both believed in Christ. I'd like a guy who would go on walks with me. I like adventurous, spontaneous guys who will get me up off my butt and go out to do things. I want a guy that will support me in the little things I dabble in. It would be nice to maybe be with someone who wants to go into business like me. We could learn and help each other with our goals. I want a guy who can look at a play boy magazine and then look at me and think I should be on that cover instead. I want a guy who is kind of athletic but doesn't shape his life around sports. I want to be able to sit on the couch with him and have just as good a time as if we had gone out. I want a guy who will kiss me in front of anyone at any time. Who will hold my hand in public. I want a guy who will inspire me to go to new places and try new things. I want a guy who will love the same whether I'm naked or all dressed up. I want a guy who thinks I look amazing with no makeup on and now matter what my hair looks like. I just want a guy who will make me better and who I can make better, just by being together.
Honestly, I hate roses. I think they are so cliche. Roses are traditional and classy. I'm not exactly traditional or classy, so please keep roses away from me. Holding open the door is just something a guy should do, but there is no need for him to get out of the car, walk to the other side and open it for you. Ladies you CAN show some independence. So the carrying over the puddles was a bit over the top, but I'm sure some of you are like "Oh he'd be my prince charming," sorry honey that will never happen. Notes are cool and all, but not something needed. Good morning and good night really? What if one of you has to get up really early for work and the other wants to sleep in, but you don't know so the one who gets up early texts "Good Morning" and wakes the other one up and then you're mad at each other and a fight starts? That's not a good thing.
Yes I'm exaggerating things a little, but some people would be like that. Girls have CRAZY ideas of what there perfect guy would be. Blue Eyes. Green Eyes. Dark Hair. Short-Spikey Hair. Tall. Muscular. Athletic. Smart. Just some physical aspects. Hilarious. Keeps me smiling. Takes me on romantic dates. Walks on the beach. Watching the stars.
I'm not saying all these are bad. Yeah, those things would be lovely, but I don't think we should DEMAND those things. I think we get to the idea where if these things don't happen right off the bat that they never will or that the guy is just not the right one. Every relationship is different. Everyone is going to want to do different things at different times. Some couples go fast. Some couples go slow. That doesn't make the relationship any better or worse.
One of the cutest couples I know: this boy and this girl. I met them at a party before a while ago. They aren't the most attractive people, though I do think the girl is pretty. They drink. They smoke. They party. They do it together. I think it is the cutest thing. I feel they really love each other. Yes they are in high school and maybe it won't last, but I think for now they are perfect for each other. They're so adorable.
Let's see. What DO I want? I'd have to say it really doesn't matter what he looks like. I can't pin point what he MUST look like. I'm kind of picky when it comes to how he looks. Must look good. I tend not to like white guys but they're not excluded either. Eyes, no color preference. I just need to love his eyes. Eyes are like the most important part of the face. I'm harsh in judging peoples noses. Lips, can't be too small or too big. A guys hair: I hate when it's really long. Am I dating a guy or a girl? Come on dude get a haircut. I like a dude with a nice body, just nice is fine. Nothing too over the top like G.I. Joe or something.
I want someone who will make conversation when I get quiet. I want someone who will let me love them. I want someone who really loves their family. I like guys who have good values but will have fun. I'd be nice if we both believed in Christ. I'd like a guy who would go on walks with me. I like adventurous, spontaneous guys who will get me up off my butt and go out to do things. I want a guy that will support me in the little things I dabble in. It would be nice to maybe be with someone who wants to go into business like me. We could learn and help each other with our goals. I want a guy who can look at a play boy magazine and then look at me and think I should be on that cover instead. I want a guy who is kind of athletic but doesn't shape his life around sports. I want to be able to sit on the couch with him and have just as good a time as if we had gone out. I want a guy who will kiss me in front of anyone at any time. Who will hold my hand in public. I want a guy who will inspire me to go to new places and try new things. I want a guy who will love the same whether I'm naked or all dressed up. I want a guy who thinks I look amazing with no makeup on and now matter what my hair looks like. I just want a guy who will make me better and who I can make better, just by being together.
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