What A Girl Wants

What girls want in a guy.
Confidence, loyalty, a great sense of humor, intelligent, handsome, in shape, knows how to keep a conversation going. Likes to hold her hand, and cuddle. calls her beautiful or gorgeous more then sexy. Makes her feel special. Makes her feel safe and secure. Doesnt pressure her into doing something she doesn't want to do. Stays up with her all night long on the phone because she can't sleep. And knows she can come crying to because she knows he'll be there to catch her, and tell her everything will be alright.. These are my opinions on what I think a girl wants in a guy. Lol.

Okay. I got you, Ryan, but...I see a few things that I think I need to fix.
--Like everyone should be confident. Have you ever been just having a friend who isn't confident in herself and is constantly needing reassurance? It gets annoying. No one would want to deal with that in a relationship.
--Loyalty, okay, you want people to stick by your side and back you up, but when I hear loyalty I think of a dog, and you do not want to date a dog. Sorry, no.
--A great sense of humor yes. Things are going to get boring if you are not laughing and smiling. Like how would you have fun?
--Intelligence yes. Stupid people are just not fun to be around but why just look for that in a guy look for it in your girl friends too.
--Everyone has their own perseption of handsome so don't think every girl wants a guy that came straight from a magazine of a copy of Justin Bieber.
--In shape is cool but sometimes its good enough just to be healthy. Especially when a woman is looking for a life partner. She doesn't want to have to worry about you being in the hospital all the time and having to pay hospital bills all the time.
--Please, know how to keep a conversation going. Like you have to have things to talk about. If you are constantly finding yourself in an uncomfortable, awkward silence then that's when should take the initiative that this is not going to work. Get out and find someone more interesting and someone you can talk to for hours.
--Personally, cuddling is a bit awkward, or maybe it's just that word that bugs me. Holding hands is also I think awkward. We can lay down together, but let's do that in private not out in public. I want your arm around me though. Make it known that I am with you. But when you put your arm around me do not strangle me. Rest your hand gently on my shoulder, you not be putting you weight on me and making me fall over, because chances are I'm in heels and have limited balance.
--While it is nice to be called beautiful, pretty, gorgeous or even sexy I would rather talk about something else. I would hope that if I'm in a relationship with you then you think I'm pretty. Yes it's nice to get compliments once in awhile but I feel I hear it too much and it honestly gets annoying. Tell me something I don't know.
--NO ONE should pressure you into doing something you don't want to do. Point made.
--Stay up with her all night because she can't sleep? Girl, you just clingy. Take some pills.
--Crying? Really? Sigh, if you have someone that makes you smile everyday ,why are you crying? Forget the haters that hate, think of something happy. Forget the death of a family member, and think of the people you are still blessed to have with you and who are destined to meet. Crying is stupid, it's negative energy. A smile is way more attractive to begin with.
--And everything will be alright. You shouldn't need a guy to tell you it will be alright. As long as you are alive and well, and you have people who love you and who you can love back then you have everything and everything will be alright. If you in rights with God then you are alright.
That's all I have to say on this issue.

Simply Love

What is love? I think we all ask ourselves this sometime in our life. Jennifer Lopez and Haddaway asked it “What is love?” I have the answer. The answer is to stop asking yourself. Love does not exist on earth. Don’t argue. Look around you. There is war and people killing each other. Black Eyed Peas asked it, “Where is the love?” To answer that specific question we must get rid of this lowercase idea of love, you have to change the “L” to a capitol: Love. Love is Lord. Love sent his only Son to come and show us Love. He gave us Love but because this is a power only He knows, and we as humans are certainly not Him, we cannot possibly be capable of love. We don’t even know what that entails. We don’t know what it means to die on the cross from someone. We don’t know what it means to be beaten and spit on. We don’t know what it is to suffer. We don’t know what love is and we cannot even begin to try and understand it. Love is unexplainable. Love is God.

We as people, have a very diluted idea of what love is. We forget the example our Savior has set for us. Yet we somehow thing when we love someone we have sex or even worse that when we have sex we are in love. Oh dear goodness. I mean who hasn’t said “When a mommy and a daddy love each other very much…” No, no, no. Do I think sex is bad or wrong? No. I think it is lovely to have kids, but understand that is not a product of your love, it is a product of Love. Are you starting to understand what I am saying?

Love is not love. Though I suppose I’ll give you the worldly definition of love: caring for someone, wanting nothing else but that other person, very strong feelings for someone. So really what the world has done has taken the work Love and made it love to use as a short cut to saying, “I really like you a lot.” See. No love, just like.

Love is eternal. The world is not eternal and neither is our body. So again, if our bodies are not eternal, our bodies cannot love, which means sex is not equal to love in any way at all, because we need our bodies to have sex.

Using the world definition of love, I guess I believe in that. I do believe there is love between a mother and child, between a sister and brother, and between friends. As far as people saying, “I’m in love with my boyfriend/husband. We are total soul mates.” I think is a lie. Love is not that. You can’t fall in love. Love just doesn’t work that way. If it did then why do people seem to, quote, “fall out of love.” Honey, what goes up must come down, not the other way around.

Do I think it is possible for a couple to stay together until death? Yes. Do I think this is because of love. Not really. I believe after awhile people get used to being together and they have been together so long, why change that now? It’s easier to stay together. I mean who wants to go through the hassle of divorce? No one. You have to deal with all of those papers and money and family. No one would want to go through that and kudos to those who do.

I don't want to be negative, but I'm just looking at reality. Look around and you might just find that you agree that love does not exist. It just can't in this world. That was a given since the first days of life with Adam and Eve.

Thought I Told You I'mma Star

Well this was my first week of working out. It was hard but I pushed through it. I'm sure there is no real gain this week but I now feel good I started this. Take a look at what I did:

DAY 1: Sunday
Shoulders—     1. Push Ups, 15 reps

2. Side Wings, 15 reps

3. Frontal Arm Wings, 15 reps

4. Arm Press, 15 reps

5. Above the Head Press, 15 reps

Abs—   1. Standard Crunches, 15 reps

2. Bicycles, 15 reps

3. Planks, 15 reps

Butt—  1. Thigh Lifts, 15 reps

2. Leg Kick Backs, 15 reps

3. Squats, 15 reps

3 Sets Of Each, on the last set do 16 reps or double seconds

DAY 2: Monday
Triceps and biceps—     1. Behind the Head Lifts, 15 reps

                                          2. Side Wings, 15 reps

                                          3. Arm Kick Backs, 15 reps

                                          4. Press

                                          5. Arm Curls, 15 reps

Abs—    1. Standard Crunches, 15 reps

               2. Bicycles, 15 reps

3 Sets of Each, on the last set do 16 reps or double seconds

DAY 3: Tuesday
Legs—  1. Squats, 15 reps

2. Lunges, 15 reps

3. Leg Kick Backs, 15 reps

4. Side Thigh Lifts, 15 reps

5. Jog, 15 reps on right

6. Jumping Jacks, 15 reps

7. Wall Sits, 15 seconds

8. Battements, 15 reps

9. Karate Kicks, 15 reps

10. Plies, 15 reps

Abs—   1. Standard Crunches, 15 reps

2. Bicycles, 15 reps

3. Planks, 15 seconds

3 Sets of Each, on the last set do 16 reps or double seconds

DAY 4: Wednesday
Back— 1. Arm Press, 15 reps

2. Side Wings, 15 reps

3. Horizontal Floor Wings, 15 reps

4. Standard Push Ups, 15 reps

5. Pull Up, 15 reps

Abs—   1. Standard Crunches, 15 reps

2. Leg Raises, 15 reps

3. V-Ups, 15 reps

3 Sets of Each, on the last set do 16 reps or double seconds

DAY 5: Friday

Back—  1. Arm Press, 15 reps

               2. Standard Push Ups, 15 rep

Abs—    1. Standard Crunches, 15 reps

               2. Leg Raises, 15 reps

Legs—  1. Plies, 15 reps

              2. Lunges, 15 reps

Triceps and Biceps—      1. Arm Kick Backs, 15 reps

                                           2. Behind the Head Lifts, 15 reps

Butts— 1. Thigh Lifts, 15 reps

               2. Leg Kick Backs, 15 reps

Shoulders—       1. Arm Circles, 15 reps

                             2. Side Wings, 15 reps

3 Sets of Each, on the last set do 16 reps or double seconds

I used a five pound weigh for almost everything. I hope I can continue working hard on this.

Thunder and Metaphors

Thunder heart and lightning mind,
I am raining inside.
The blood of my veins is the color of dark clouds.
My eyes are the wind,
Piercing and cold.
I'll light up your world.
Flashing bold.
Taking you down with my sound.
The noise I make is so loud.
Hiding from me just to stay dry.
I am angry with no tears.
Just wanting to strike fear in you heart,
So don't try to hate me.
Mother nature is bittersweet,
But I am a nightmare.